Review; 'Not On My Watch'

A Bystanders Handbook for the Prevention of Sexual Violence


We recently read through an amazing little handbook ‘Not On My Watch - A Bystanders Handbook for the Prevention of Sexual Violence’ by Isabella Rotman for Nikki Darling.

If you’re like us and don’t like to read too much about heavy topics like consent, peer pressure or sexual abuse, drug and alcohol use, don’t be afraid of picking up this handbook. Whilst it explores sensitive content, it is displayed in comic book format - words and imagery. We couldn’t be more happy to find an educational book that is easy to read.


First you are drawn in by the front cover - one that hints at prevention itself by its use of colour, western style font and graphics. Furthermore you are reassured in the first couple pages of the book. It warns readers that it does contain sensitive content and if you struggle reading it at any time, you should reach out for help. This only confirms that this handbook is a result of passion and personal care.

As we started reading, we quickly realised that the content is written from an American point of view - referencing statistics based within America. Regardless of where the stats are based, the purpose of the handbook is still relevant wherever you are in the world. The stats still point out a very daunting fact that sexual violence, interpersonal violence and domestic abuse is still prevalent anywhere you are, and it can often be prevented.


The best thing about this book is that it promotes prevention, and not just professional services that can help after a horrible event has occurred. Prevention is often overlooked and this great (easy to read) little red book gives EVERYONE the right information to be a part of that prevention. Even if you are already an awesome bystander that stands up against sexual abuse, it is a great reminder to do it more often.

Furthermore, we agree with Isabella’s mum when she says “They should teach this bystander crap in kindergarten.” Damn straight they should, and they should do it with this book!

Seriously, you won’t regret reading this gem of a handbook. It can only do good.